Psalm 127:1-2
1 If the Lord is not helping the builders, then the building of a house is to no purpose: if the Lord does not keep the town, the watchman keeps his watch for nothing.
2 It is of no use for you to get up early, and to go late to your rest, eating the food of exhausting labor— truly he gives sleep to those he loves.

Sometime ago I was reading a book that had so captivated me, so much so that I didn’t want to let it down for even a minute, it dawned on me that day that our generation has been stolen. Yes, stolen by the the cultures and trends of the times we live in; stolen by all the lies we see on television in the form of musical videos, drama series and not excluding the chief of them all – movies. Don’t get me wrong, I love to watch movies especially the ones on love but the lack of God’s wisdom is destroying many lives today, precious people who give themselves into being misled by the media. We see it happen everyday: Boy meets girl, falls in love and before you say Jack Robinson, they’re already thinking of getting married or worse still, they become what the world calls friends for benefits. We really do live in a shamelessly degrading world. With these antecedents should you get surprised at the alarming rate of divorce and broken homes these days, even among Christians? Many of us have bought over a false version of love and are trying to demand the authentic results of the original from the fake we practice. Toy hens don’t lay real eggs. That doesn’t happen anywhere.

There has always been evil in the world but the level at which people are giving in to being deceived is higher today because loads of people allow the media do their thinking for them. I want you to follow a different path, a more noble path – God’s path. Has it ever crossed you mind that our fore fathers had a different set of values in their days? Yes, they didn’t have it all together but they didn’t degrade to the current extent people have degraded to today. In their days, wives were submissive to their husbands and saw to the upkeep of their homes. Men and women firmly protected the continuity of their families. Generally speaking, they valued their marriages and homes. What made homes of those days stronger and last longer than homes of today? Was the power of love stronger then than it is now? The plain answer is no. I think the reason is that people have become more selfish, not accepting that love is a choice you make to continually seek the best interest of the next person and never yours first. Pride refuses to follow God’s way of doing things. Sadly, the people generally celebrated today are those who have rebelled against God’s methods and because they “seem” to be doing well, countless others have thronged behind them in careless disregard for God’s views on love and marriage.

When God brought the first couple together, He intended for them to be in sync with respect to their life assignmemt. The most important reason why couples should nurture and value their love relationships is because of purpose. I hope you got married with purpose in mind, and if you’re not yet married, make sure you marry for purpose. Some people think life is all about growing up, finding a job or business to sustain you and then, getting married to anyone and then, watching your children grow up too. Hmmm, if this is all to life, then I think being on earth is just a wastage of time. But I thank God it’s not. We all were born for a purpose which can only be found in discovering the one true God. When we know God, we begin to know who we really are. A lot of folks go into marriage not knowing what the purpose of their spouse is (Take note: The first connection you should have with the person you’re to marry should be a connection of purpose) and so, when the love and attraction that so burned in the couple with time depletes, the fuel to bring it back on which is purpose, isn’t there. Purpose does more to love and for love than we can discuss here. Searching out your purpose before seeking for a spouse is like looking out for what will size you before paying for new clothes. That’s how serious living a purpose filled life with respect to marriage can get.

My heart goes out to the young people of our generation. These truths have got to be brought to them continuously so they do not make the mistakes some already have made. Marriage is for partnership. The circular media won’t tell you that. Young people, if you want to enjoy a long interesting and lovely sail in marriage, then let your heart pant for the Lord, He will set you on you life’s course (purpose) and consequently bring that spouse that correctly fits you. Love is God’s idea. Allow the Lord build your relationship and your marriage. The patterns of the world won’t give you true success. Be wise. God will give you rest if you love Him. Allow Him do things His own way when it comes to love and marriage in your life. For those who have already made many mistakes, God specializes in turning people’s mess around. Now hand your relationship/marriage over to Him and let Him help you built it.


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1 Comment
  • Archie Alfa
    April 23, 2015

    I agree with you. marriage is definitely for partnership amongst other things! Well done!

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