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DEAR Achenyo,

I have come to an amazing realization. We do everything big. We love big, we fight big, we dream big, we entertain big….it’s part of our personalities, and frankly, I am not going to feel sorry for it anymore.

We have been through so much. We have built a relationship together in spite of coming from broken homes. God has held us together and has been our example of what a covenant is. We argue over such stupid things. We both love to be right and both dig our heels in deep. But you know what? I kind of like who we are. We have amazing personalities, our home will be a hub of excitement, and we are just plain fun. Instead of feeling like something is wrong with us, I have come to realize we are fabulous and slightly crazy. I love that about us.

Let’s never change. Let’s always have impromptu arm wrestling tournaments at the dinner table and argue about how the slippers in the bathroom should be kept. Let’s never stop going to the movies or watching series together with our salty popcorn and coke. Let’s adopt a million more times. I want to always laugh loud with you. I love the yankee well dressed-food you make, because the food you make is always the best and most amazing food ever to cross anyone’s lips. I am just grateful.

I love you and I am thankful that God saw it fit to give me a woman who is classy and detailed even if it drives me crazy at times. Because I like to keep it simple not caring about details. I think it’s great that God gave me a woman who wears my heart on her sleeve. It took us a while to find our groove, but it was worth the wait. Yes, I know we still fight, and I hate that, but we are learning to resolve better. We are using kinder words and seem to be getting more productive and less defensive. It is encouraging for me to see this process unfold and gives me hope for not only our marriage but for other marriages as well. It’s exciting to see the gospel at work. Chaos and all.

You get cuter each day you walk this earth, and I am proud to be your man. I am so looking forward to our next chapter of life, which will probably include our lovely children and grandchildren! I can’t wait to experience that with you. Seriously, how much fun will that be? Granny Bubu and Papa Fed, that’s what our grand-kids should call us. I can already envision them coming over for chocolates, jumping all over you.

Thank you for being stubbornly in love with me, and most of all, with Jesus. We have found ourselves hanging by a thread many times, but underneath us, was a giant, grace-woven net, ready to catch us if we fell.

I seriously love being your Feddi, and everything that brings with it,

Forever yours,

Utin. Archibong. E aka. Feddi of Life

Photo Credit: Ayo Taurrus

The toastmaster as he is often called, Archibong enjoys adding special value by masterminding new forays into the improvement of communications. He uses his communications skills and writing skills to help actualize his mission in helping to bring out the BEST in people, teams, and organizations.
  • Lovejunkie
    April 17, 2015

    AwwwWwwwwhhh. This is so beautiful. I so love it couldn’t have loved it less anyway. Thank God for you both.

  • Lovejunkie
    April 17, 2015

    AwwwWwwwwhhh. This is so beautiful. I so love it, couldn’t have loved it less anyway. Thank God for you both.

    • Utin Archibong E.
      April 17, 2015

      Thank you @Lovejunkie for your comment, I am grateful to God too. You too are a role model.

  • Bella
    April 20, 2015

    Oh dear… This is awesome! I’m having this butterfly in my stomach just reading it. Thumbs up Feddi. Sorry, i mean Archy. Hehehe

  • charles peters
    April 20, 2015

    love it v.good

  • Chuka Chiezie
    April 21, 2015

    Nice Piece my man

    • Busola
      April 22, 2015

      WOW………..The love of God as brought you both together, keep on the good work ARCHY

  • Chuka Chiezie
    April 21, 2015

    Nice one my man

  • rich
    April 22, 2015

    Lovely …..nice one

  • Archie Alfa
    April 23, 2015

    Phew…can someone get me some cold water? The blushing is enough to set off a volcanic eruption.


  • chizobam
    April 23, 2015


  • Udeme Brown
    May 8, 2015

    Dis is nice.I wish u guys d best

  • master kenneth
    May 8, 2015

    Wow!!!! This was/is nicely done bro, this aticle was/is not ordinary, it came from somewhere…….. It was created from a strong love, God really created you two for each other, and no man or spirit would be against that, Amen!!!

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