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Last year my fiancée and I decided to enter for the “My Big Nigerian Wedding” contest for the chance of winning a dream wedding and honeymoon trip to Dubai.

The contest involved sourcing for votes from friends and family or well-wishers as the case may be. The contest was for both Lagos and Abuja respectively. As the days went by, some couples earned more votes than others. Something about the Lagos couples intrigued me. I couldn’t understand how couples could get up to 1000 votes in 4 days.

A particular couple at the end of 2weeks had registered 2800 votes gapping the other couples with about 1000 votes. Now that got me scared and curious at the same time because we were still struggling to get up to 500 or I think 400 votes in those 2 weeks. I called my fiancée to tell her all about this racing for votes or speed voting going on in Lagos. She screamed “those Lagos people are in a different world o.”

In fact we agreed to stop checking or keeping tabs on the Lagos contest page so we didn’t feel too bad about our snail like crawling votes. (Thank you to all that voted)

My curiosity got the best of me and I didn’t stay faithful to our agreement of not checking the Lagos contest page.

It would be great to have the bragging rights of saying, “I have 4000 votes in 3 weeks!” I could just see how other couples would have reacted on the Abuja contest page.

But before, I got carried away, I had to research some of these couples. And when I do a research, I take my time.

How did they get votes and what were they doing that I was not doing?

“Let me get this…” I asked one of the couples from Lagos I contacted

“You send broadcasts on all your social media platforms, and then they vote for you?


“Interesting.” It baffled me.

It was not until voting ended and it was time for the game show that I meet the couples face to face. I asked them again the same question.

“So what was your strategy? I want to know everything about it”

I observed that this couple were passionate about their gifts and as a result had strong followership too. One for instance had the gift of teaching and had been at it since his university days with his partner who was a blogger on love issues and family. It was clear they had been at it, for a long time. The more they spoke, the more I realized how important followership is to life.

There is a science to everything

Now this very couple told me how some followers created a whatsapp group, making sure all the group members voted. A BBM channel as well as other social media platforms were created.. Followers from their church were not ruled out. I asked with my mouth open, “Wow, they did that for you, with no pay?!”

“Yes, yes, yes.” They answered.

“I see”.

I wondered what the conversation with their followers would have sounded like.


To function fully in your place of gifting and gain followership requires you to always approach things with humility and respect. There is no one who does not have followers, only that the followers may be different. Only fools look at life, and say to themselves, I don’t need anybody to succeed. You were never meant to walk through life alone. This has nothing to do with whether you’re single or married.

You may say, “What’s wrong with walking alone? I like waking alone. In fact, I prefer it. I can go at my own pace. I don’t have to wait for anybody.” You may like to walk alone, but you need others to walk with you through life if not you may not get that far. I came across a Zambian proverb that says, “When you run alone, you run fast. But when you run together, you run far.” Life is not a 50-yard dash; it’s a marathon! The only way you’re going to finish the race well and not burn out is by having followers involved in your life through meaningful relationships.

Proverbs 28:26 says, “Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool.”

Ephesians 4:16 says, “As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love” (NLT).

The process of acquiring senior level respected follower-ship took these couple several months, years even, working on their person and character. It was harder than you can imagine.

Understanding the importance of followership will prepare you for the “senior class” of life.

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The toastmaster as he is often called, Archibong enjoys adding special value by masterminding new forays into the improvement of communications. He uses his communications skills and writing skills to help actualize his mission in helping to bring out the BEST in people, teams, and organizations.
  • Meme baSsey
    June 8, 2015

    Beautiful piece! Thankz and more grace.

  • Lammy
    June 8, 2015

    Great and inspiring. Wish you all the best

  • Juliet cherechukwu uju
    June 9, 2015

    Always inspiring, more grace to you.

  • Becky
    June 11, 2015

    So true!! Really inspiring, wen u run together u run far

  • 1blessed girl
    June 24, 2015

    First,congratulations on winning the contest and i enjoyed reading this.

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